| People consistently become more loving,
friendly and compassionate after deep forgiveness. Emotional pain is
released. Depression departs. And, healing can even occur in the body. Joy returns. Laughter is found
again.
It
seems that the mind transforms through forgiving. I have found this
to be consistently true in all of my years of work in forgiveness,
doing individual and group Forgiveness Therapy and trainings, and
from my own life experience.
Why
forgiveness transforms the mind's functioning is open to
speculation, yet we do have the easily observable fact that it does.
We can observe that when the bitterness, grudges, and resentments of
the past are let go of, life energy becomes much more available to
that person. How much life energy depends on how much energy has
been put into holding resentments and bitterness.
People who say they have done complete forgiveness of all
the people and situations in their life, live a life with much joy
in it. They get sick much less often and people are more friendly to
them than before their forgiveness transformation. Some say they
don't get sick anymore as long as they hold no upsets with people.
This, though, is not an easy state of mind to attain. But, the pay off is great.
Some
have deeply religious experiences after their forgiveness and
reconciliation experience and say they have a deeper understanding
of life and love. Their relationships with people, in general, get
better, and their friendships deepen. They are less stressed and
angered by daily personal and world events. They find it easier to
get over upsets.
Forgiveness has tremendous potential, but it must be
used.
Jim
Dincalci
July 2000 |
Forgiveness Transforms!